Hi Ani! I had a bit of trouble with the Give-a-Little process. I got messages saying "Oops something went wrong!", but I persevered and my donation seemed to go through in the end. Cross fingers!
Good on you for putting it out there. That takes real guts, but we know you have plenty. Unfortunately am not in a position to help as am solo and trying to life off the super - not easy. Yes, I do agree those fertility clinics charge an arm and a leg.
If you're relying on advanced technology and public subscriptions to have children then you, your partner and your children will in a very real sense, be partially or totally own by that advanced technology and those public subscribers.
Open your private life to the public and it's no longer a private life. You can open that door but you can't close it.
I thought long and hard about whether or not to reply to this.
Honestly this mailout is a big turnoff for me, and I wont be alone.
I am a big fan of your work, I know that you are lesbian, I really dont mind, but im here for your sharp mind and opinion pieces.
I really dont need to know your medical conditions and when it comes to totally voluntary procedures that is entirely up to you, but asking people to help to fund the bringing of another baby into the world through artificial means is a step too far.
Havent you noticed that there are too many unwanted babies already? Have you considered adoption?
And if you two cant afford the baby at the beginning then will you be too poor to raise a baby to adulthood?
Having to beg for money in order to have a baby is too low.
Sorry but there are better causes for me to donate to.
OK, Boris is going to come out with some support for John's comments here. I think they were a little blunt maybe, but we value honesty here right? I'm fine with Ani & her partner wanting a child, and judging by her writing, I am sure the kid/s will grow up to be loved and decent citizen/s. But John touches on whether this is an appropriate request via this forum? Dunno. A most heartfelt plea, but perhaps a little unusual to request money for a specific personal medical process like this? And one I suspect John may have some conflicting moral perspectives on. Which is his right. Lesbian IVF may raise traditionalist flags of moral uncertainty, but women are naturally more caring and Ani will carry this baby, thereby establishing an important biological maternal link. Two dudes cannot even do that so gay bloke surrogacy baby making sits less well with me. Sue me if that upsets anyone.
So on balance Ani, if you read this, I will support you over & above my normal subs. As stated prior, I love you in the strict platonic sense, and very much respect your ethics & morals, (and willingness to stand up for them) so it would be somewhat churlish of me to refuse to support you, even if it is a complex issue for some.
Young couples in my family cannot afford to have babies even though they want to... I doubt people would be willing to give them money to help them out.
I am not against people choosing to have fertility treatment. I have a friend who went through this some years ago and had she known what she uncovered about the Australian fertility clinic later, she would not have done it. There were not enough safeguards such as them keeping eggs/embryos without consent, etc, so it is something that has to be very very carefully checked.
Craig, I had trouble, too, but I persevered and it came right, I think. Well, it took all my credit card particulars, anyway. So I suggest you try again.
Very brave of you Ani! Brave for asking for help, and for going through the procreation process.
I shall help out, and be pleased to look upon your baby as my surrogate great-grandchild.
However, I am of a generation when we got pregnant too easily, so I am surprised that young people find it so hard these days! Sign of the times?!
Good luck!
I had a friend offer me her husbands sperm and a turkey baster once. If you've already got a donor why not try that first?
Hi Ani! I had a bit of trouble with the Give-a-Little process. I got messages saying "Oops something went wrong!", but I persevered and my donation seemed to go through in the end. Cross fingers!
All the best with this Ani
Ani- will gladly donate to you.
Your writing is thoughtful and articulate.
You reach out and help others. You are passionate about women’s rights.
From experience- it’s a marathon not a race.
Good luck!
Good on you for putting it out there. That takes real guts, but we know you have plenty. Unfortunately am not in a position to help as am solo and trying to life off the super - not easy. Yes, I do agree those fertility clinics charge an arm and a leg.
All the very, very best to you and your partner in having a healthy addition to your family.
Took 2 attempts to get the payment through - but I am a technophobe !
Wishing you all the best with your fertility journey, happy to donate.
John you should’ve thought a bit harder and reframed from commenting. Jack… just shut up 🤐
It's a bad idea, through and through.
If you're relying on advanced technology and public subscriptions to have children then you, your partner and your children will in a very real sense, be partially or totally own by that advanced technology and those public subscribers.
Open your private life to the public and it's no longer a private life. You can open that door but you can't close it.
The link to donate is not working, Ani. Might just be me. Will try again later.
Hi Ani
I thought long and hard about whether or not to reply to this.
Honestly this mailout is a big turnoff for me, and I wont be alone.
I am a big fan of your work, I know that you are lesbian, I really dont mind, but im here for your sharp mind and opinion pieces.
I really dont need to know your medical conditions and when it comes to totally voluntary procedures that is entirely up to you, but asking people to help to fund the bringing of another baby into the world through artificial means is a step too far.
Havent you noticed that there are too many unwanted babies already? Have you considered adoption?
And if you two cant afford the baby at the beginning then will you be too poor to raise a baby to adulthood?
Having to beg for money in order to have a baby is too low.
Sorry but there are better causes for me to donate to.
You had the option to say nothing and just get on with your day.
Oh, John, that's unkind and judgmental.
As for adoption, that brings unbearable pain and sorrow that you obviously can't imagine!
What a sad man you are John. As Ani said, you didn’t need to make your feelings on this subject public.
OK, Boris is going to come out with some support for John's comments here. I think they were a little blunt maybe, but we value honesty here right? I'm fine with Ani & her partner wanting a child, and judging by her writing, I am sure the kid/s will grow up to be loved and decent citizen/s. But John touches on whether this is an appropriate request via this forum? Dunno. A most heartfelt plea, but perhaps a little unusual to request money for a specific personal medical process like this? And one I suspect John may have some conflicting moral perspectives on. Which is his right. Lesbian IVF may raise traditionalist flags of moral uncertainty, but women are naturally more caring and Ani will carry this baby, thereby establishing an important biological maternal link. Two dudes cannot even do that so gay bloke surrogacy baby making sits less well with me. Sue me if that upsets anyone.
So on balance Ani, if you read this, I will support you over & above my normal subs. As stated prior, I love you in the strict platonic sense, and very much respect your ethics & morals, (and willingness to stand up for them) so it would be somewhat churlish of me to refuse to support you, even if it is a complex issue for some.
Young couples in my family cannot afford to have babies even though they want to... I doubt people would be willing to give them money to help them out.
I am not against people choosing to have fertility treatment. I have a friend who went through this some years ago and had she known what she uncovered about the Australian fertility clinic later, she would not have done it. There were not enough safeguards such as them keeping eggs/embryos without consent, etc, so it is something that has to be very very carefully checked.
Site won’t accept donations at the moment
Weird! There are some coming through.
Craig, I had trouble, too, but I persevered and it came right, I think. Well, it took all my credit card particulars, anyway. So I suggest you try again.
Best of luck with this Ani....brave to be so publically vulnerable in today's world....I appreciate your courage in all you do.